Four years ago what you would have settled for was like the best thing that ever happened, you might have figured out in your head that it was one of your best times and you wished for it never to came to an end. The kind of love,laughter and everything meant the world to you at that very moment.
Fast foward to the next four years and i bet some people will puke if given that same thing or person who served as their joy for free. Divorce is on the rise today and most of the cases are as a result of irreconcilable differences which may have occurred when partners become and live like strangers,that bonding that drove them head over heels with each other had gone sour and their hearts no longer desire each other.
Alot of people who are in a hurry to get married especially because all their friends are married tend to fall in the category of people who woke up after some years of marriage and regret why they had ended up with that person or how they would have probably be laid with another kind of person,this is when you hear people go like 'why did i end up with you' 'i am supposed to be married to someone on a different level not you' 'i regret this marriage or relationship'. And out of their bitter hearts words spur out.
Because as we mature our tastes becomes different, for example;if you were used to having high carb or fatty foods for breakfast while you were younger,you might just wake up one day and realize your sugar level has gone way up then your sweet breakfast turns into a healthy meal of maybe unripe plantain and vegetables or something even more better. Another example; you might have been used to been in a relationship with certain kind of people maybe it was limited to a particular profession or a particular place or even a certain age bracket then suddenly your taste changed maybe got higher or you just yearn for something new and different at that point. That is when it feels like you have not been living life all the while and you might end up hurting whom you are with in your quest to find fulfilment.
Maybe some years back,you were satisfied been a first degree holder with a very good job but at a time you begin to desire more. Humans are naturally this way,our appetite keeps growing, its just insatiable though alot of people do not realize its their desires that has changed they might blame it on others for their change while its a natural thing. Many may recognise this change in desires and wants and act fast while other would never discover what it is the really want and the remain unhappy all through.
Before you jump into anything at all especially relationships, new friendships, marriage and maybe in your education,career part and even the kind of business you choose to do, be very sure its what would give you satisfaction on the long run,do not be hasty or in a hurry for anything. Be sure you can wake up every morning refreshed and happy not been miserable even there is no reason to be aside the fact that your interests diverted. This is why most people even with good paying jobs that other people may envy are never happy because their desires are now bigger than the satisfaction their current job gives them.
If its something deep down your heart you know you would always desire then don't hesitate to go for it but in your double thoughts,don't be in a hurry because most bigger appetite works more the older we get!
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