MADAM TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Dear women,
              
                     I am pleading with you to stop doing this things you do,you will not change hair for three month,you won't wash the hair either and you make oga uncomfortable while he sleeps and your excuse for looking dirty is ''my husband loves me the way i am''. Who told you that?The man might have know how tempramental you can be especially when corrected so he chooses to keep quiet.

Another stupid excuse is ''after looking sexy and good,he would still go and chase one small girl''. So you can't look good or take of yourself for you. You can not see something nice and buy it for yourself,you won't eat well because you are now in his house or because you are without a boyfriend. Its sad how some will say just keep watchimg your weight when you marry you can then start growing fat.LOL

We will now fry egg for you to change clothes and take a night bath even after sweating the whole day and cooking in the kitchen,you will carry your ogiri smelling body into body making these man have hard times breathing. Chai madam diaris God for you o.

Go out and have fun,Mba instead you sit all day and watch telemundo,its not as if you are even copying their dress styles you'd still flop.

 Madam please take care of yourself,there was a you before that man and the children came along. You are not bedridden so why can't you look good? Mind you,your body stature has nothing to do with your shabby dressing. Plus size women dress better these days,look through the social media you'd see and you don't even need to spend too much to be that classy well dressed lady.

A RACE FOR THE TITLE OR NAH

At wedding ceremonies,there is a section where the couple have to repeat after the priest to take their 

solemn vows,that part gets sweet and next ''you may kiss the bride'' and all other church formalities after which pictures would be taken then you see those relations who always have to tell you ''oh how you once pooed on their clothes'' begin to say things like ''you are now a big boy/girl and i hope its your wedding we would come to next?

Which brings me to these,its almost  festive season and a lot of weddings will be taken place and also a lot of young women will be on the look out for potential husbands,some make choices of the weddings they'd attend. If its not to a politicians son or daughter or at least a well known name in the country or if the wedding would not be graced by dignitaries even if it had to be local government chairmen,they would not waste 'their precious time' to attend,everyone wants the good life na.

In a society where been single at a certain point is seen as worse than death itself,every young girl is on the race for the title of ''Mrs''. According to someone,the title gets you the respect you never have gotten so the race is so fierce.

Its a battle where they have to show case whose husband has more money or is finer,some even go to wedding to compare their imaginary husbands that they haven't gotten to the ones standing on the alter.

This is why some women just go into a marriage and mess the man' life up because their only intention was to meet up with friends and standards and not because they actually had an iota of love for the intended husband.

The race for this title has also left so many woman bitter from abuse when they had to marry the next man who showed them the ring without thinking twice if they could even survive a day together.
 Its all for the race,the battle of who wins, its so fierce that some might get burnt. Just search in their hearts you would discover that it is all for the title,it is like an award of excellence and or a gold cup.it had to be conquered and those relations and friends has to see them also making their marks.

FOR BETTER TOGETHER(FICTION)

Continued from the previous......

After a long search, Emeka couldn't bring himself to just accept that the good life he once had was gradually going down the drain. His wife who was once a very sweet lady didn't make things rosy,she nagged and wanted to shout down their roof at every given opportunity and had threatened to leave if he stops doing the needful. It was as if everything in his life had crashed,every man struggled to keep their own family and he couldn't disturb them with his own problems,his which was even a small family could not be kept together simply because his wife wanted to have it all and couldn't be patient with him or even remember the good days when everything was all sunshine and good. 
The days when he made her feel like a Hollywood star with all the expensive jewelry and clothes,she wanted to have more and was never content with the once she had, living with Nnenna for the past months was like riding on a rough and sloppy path.
She was never happy about anything especially once he was in the house,these was a woman who always wanted him around when he was sent on official assignments to other towns. Was that all pretense, Emeka always thought which confusion on how to keep up and meet her unending demands .

Emeka pleaded with Nnenna to exercise a little patient with him as his new business was still growing and they had just paid rent for their new place and several other responsibilities he had to tend to but Nnenna having to lead an extravagant life style,coupled with the fact that she didn't want to look for a job or do any business. She was the kind of person who wanted a comfortable life without stress or risk,she was also a shopaholic and wasn't bothered about the other person unless she is made comfortable.

 After six months of struggling to no avail,it was as if God had forgotten them. Emeka turned into another human beign all together,he was soon diagnosed with a kidney problem coupled with his blood pressure issues after having to endure these past months with a cheating and nagging wife who has made living difficult for him.

It got so bad that his once sweet Nnenna who pampered him was only married to him because the money was there and he spoilt her silly but when the tables turned,she showed her true colour. Men came visiting her in her matrimonial home and they satisfied her unquencheable urge of wanting to have more,more money,clothes and beauty products. Emeka didn't know what to do with her and her mother didn't help matters,concluding and saying her daughter can not die in poverty and that he should be a real man and fend for himself and his wife,in her words ''once a queen,always a queen'' but Emeka endured thinking his wife would later come back to her senses and therefore none of his family members knew what was really going on in his home.

When Emeka was down with the kidney problem,Nnnenna felt she had heard enough and she left, she was of the opinion that it should be ''for better together and for worse divided''. A marriage where no child was produced and she had to suffer with hin,for what! Despite all Emeka's pleas she left without mercy or even looking back leaving him to die in loneliness and anguish.

 After several months Emeka was fully recovered after his friends had teamed up and sent him abroad for advanced medical care and surgery,he bounced back to life after he was paid of a contract he had done some months before his fall out with the company he worked for. He was even doing better than he was before and vowed never again to fall for physical beauty for ''charm might be deceptive'' but a good woman will always be one regardless of her physical beauty. It was Nnenna's beauty that attracted him first to her but because he wasn't thinking he overlooked all the traits of not been content which she showed off but he assumed her beauty shone also through, to her heart.

His marriage was not one he wanted to even remember or wish his enemy,it was indeed ''for better together'.



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